“Is excess sex drive a mental health problem?”

Sex drive in people is variable, but a part of how one is made. For some it is high, for others low. Most are in between. Therapy could help you learn to manage your drive better, and might reveal underline issues you need to deal with.

Start with talking with your doctor and have some blood work.

You are probably an anorgasmic woman and your frustration is extremely normal.

Find an adequate partner

Sex drive is like many things...very high depends on others. I’ve seen patients who were young and healthy and only had any kind of sex, including masturbation, once or twice a year. I’ve also known couples who had intercourse 4-5 times per night. The issue is usually related to a difference in expectations/demands. If one partner wants sex and the other does not, and that issue happens frequently, then it can be a major source of trouble, as sex is one of the major reasons for being in a couple (or even a triad). Sometimes, masturbation can balance the scales, but if the desires include closeness, gaining attention, etc, then that won’t help. It is almost impossible to give you better answers without lots more detail, so I would sum it up by saying there is no "normal." If both people are happy most of the time, you're normal. If it is a recurring problem for you in multiple relationships, then I would suggest you see a professional. Anything from hormonal problems to anxiety could be a significant factor.
Don’t think of yourself as weird anymore than you would if you were 6’ tall. For some spouses, that would be too tall, or too short, or even just right.

Good luck.

It may be, it may not be. It would be advisable to see a mental health professional and go into more detail. If it is bad enough to ruin a relationship, it is bad enough to seek some personal help. 

Dr. Moses

Sure! You need to get into therapy and get evaluated. I don't know your age or frequency. At a young age, it can be normal. Please get into therapy and get a further evaluation.

Can you describe to me in further detail how did the excess sex drive led to the downfall of your prior relationship? Do you think your sex drive is affecting your concentration at work? I'm sorry to ask this personal question, but I assure you it is a routine question in order to be better able to assist you. Do you often masturbate? How much time during the day does it take from you?

You might need therapy to understand why you experience this let down. I'm a big fan of Internal Family Systems Therapy. You can find someone on the center for self leadership website.