I'm so sorry to hear you've been suffering from anxiety and depression for so long. Medications can be helpful to take the edge of some of these disorders but, as you found out, they often have side effects, addiction potential and often lose their effectiveness over time. I, and many others, have successfully treated anxiety and depression with counseling or therapy. This is not a quick fix, but it sidesteps all the medication problems. It typically takes three months of therapy to notice a difference and six months to a year and a half to resolve.
It can be upsetting to be on a different page from your spouse, but it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you! In fact, it's very normal to be on separate pages when it comes to your sex life and other things because you are two different people. Whenever a partner is on a separate page, I encourage them to state their position clearly and then listen respectively to their partner's position. If that has been done (and not assumed!), then the next move is a compromise. Realize that no one is right and no one is wrong, but now
together you have a problem to solve. Something like: "Hmm, since we have different needs, how are we going to work this out." That could take the form of more sex one week and less the next or more sex on the weekends and less during the week, etc.