If the relationship with the parent is deep and close, we can savor and re-experience positive scenes with that parent, enjoying the moments and realizing these can be present the rest of our lives, like money in the bank, to draw on when needed. At the same time we can continue drawing on these nuggets in the present. Deep relationships are timeless, and the kinds of responses we would receive from our parents can be experienced in our current circumstance.
I have "lost" several dear people in my life, and gain real comfort knowing I can draw from my bank of experience with them in a present challenge. It may sound strange, but many people have found this to be helpful and meaningful.
James O. Henman, Ph.D.