An Accredited Member of the Australian Traditional Medicine Society, Julie Graduated with distinctions from S.A. College of Botanic Medicine and Natural Therapies Pty Ltd. Professional Qualifications include: Naturopathic Doctor, Herbal & Homoeopathic Practitioner: Diet and Nutritional Medicine: Remedial & Therapeutic... more
Life can be so emotionally disturbing on so many levels at times, creating feelings of frustration, anger, anxiety, panic and what may feel like pure helplessness.
One of the most common things I am asked to teach people is in learning how to cope with these emotional disturbances and life-changing experiences.
I would like to share with your these simple yet effective steps that will help you to rise above these feelings of sheer fear at times of absolute trauma to a place of comfort and peace.
This allows you to feel and be in the moment. Releasing emotions in this way allows you to take control, rather than them controlling you.
Before we start, I want you to know that this is perfectly normal and these feelings should not be blocked, but recognized, and then using these steps to work through and rise above them.
Effective ways to deal with these moments
- It's okay to cry: If you need a good cry, definitely have one and let it out. It is the best thing to release deep seated emotional pain. You may feel a little or a lot drained after, but you will feel lighter plus clearer in your head.
- Feel the grief of loss of a loved one, job, or current status: This can occur in the physical sense of loss such as a loved one who has passed away, or a treasured pet. This also includes loss of a relationship, job, business or career change. It is okay to allow yourself to feel the grief. Don't block this, and allow these feelings to flow out of you. Then put into place pleasant, positive thoughts that will fuel your heart and your mind, allowing you to cope and feel differently about the situation. This will also work for negative situations to look for positive outcomes. Allow positive solutions and happier times to come into play. Over time, you will experience positive outcomes and happier memories. Realize what you have learned and that you have coped, building strength within you, having worked through these moments and experiences in life.
- Be patient: Be patient, both with yourself and others. It is quite normal when things aren't going quite to plan, you aren't learning something, or you aren't finishing a project as quickly as you would like. Maybe your friends and family aren't quite where you would like them to be. You know the saying, "Patience is a virtue". Well I have news for you: As difficult as it may seem at times, and when your patience is tested, it is a virtue and is definitely worth learning to get a handle on.
- Be quiet: If possible, turn off all distractions and just work slowly and calmly in the quiet. You will feel so much better and able to cope.
- Do something positive: Maybe you know you've been putting something off, but you know that once you do it, you will feel great!
- Don't dwell on your mistakes: Recognize them, then allow yourself to move forward with recognizing all the things that you have done right.
- Prioritize your tasks: Do this in order of importance to your health and well being. While you are feeling emotionally vulnerable, tailor your tasks to fit your needs. In other words, focus on the tasks that will bring you a sense of achievement and satisfaction when you have completed them.
- Smell the roses: Take time to enjoy the small things in Life. Go out into the fresh air, hear the birds, hear the wind, and observe nature. This will give you a sense of peace and and a sense that all is OK with the world.
- Take a bubble bath: Enjoy a relaxing bubble bath with a couple of drops of lavender and frankincense. You can add a cup of Epsom salts to ease away muscle aches and pains.
Here are three easy things you can do today:
- Allow yourself to accept nurturing. It can be the first step towards loving yourself more. This means asking for and accepting help. If help isn't available, then engage in pampering yourself.
- Nourish your body with healthy food and a walk in the park, and ensure you get enough rest. Going without sleep or not allowing yourself to relax will only make matters worse. Depleting yourself of emotional and mental balance will lead you to feel exhausted and further stressed.
- Work with affirmations: I have for you my page of Inspirational Quotes & Daily Affirmations. These help to support your mind, putting it into a happier and more optimistic place.
Further Support for You
Empowering You to Optimal Health – Julie Doherty N.D