An Accredited Member of the Australian Traditional Medicine Society, Julie Graduated with distinctions from S.A. College of Botanic Medicine and Natural Therapies Pty Ltd. Professional Qualifications include: Naturopathic Doctor, Herbal & Homoeopathic Practitioner: Diet and Nutritional Medicine: Remedial & Therapeutic... more
Here I am going to share with you something that isn't all that new but very relevant when it comes to building a happy, successful, and healthy life.
It is not about the quantity of friends that you are going to have in your life, but the quality. By this I don't mean financial, professional, or societal status.
I mean the ones who will be there all the way. The ones who are honest, who are building a life of integrity, loyalty, and commitment to always being true to themselves and to you.
They will be the ones who will encourage you to follow your dreams, the ones who will not be frightened to tell you if think you might be off track, and the ones who will understand that it is normal to make mistakes and who will allow you to learn from them.
They will deter you from negative habits and encourage you in positive ones. They will love you because you are you, not because of what you have, do, or accomplish. They will be there for the journey. They will be there to share your challenges and your successes. They will be there to just be, enjoying the moment of being in one another's lives.
You can apply these steps to building positive family relationships as well as friendships.
- Don't seek to be understood; seek to understand: When you dig deep into understanding your feelings and your reactions, how you want to be treated, and how you want to be with people, this gives you the first step into developing positive friendships.
- Be positive: "Be solution-driven, not problem-driven." Being positive doesn’t mean walking around with rose-colored glasses because things will go wrong. There will be upsets, sometimes even arguments. It means to look for something good in the situation, person, or event. Don’t allow yourself to think the worst. Look to find a solution to the problem or to just agree to disagree.
- Be real and be honest. See things how they are: See things not worse than they are or better than they are, but how they are. This gives you a strong base to work from to move your life and relationships in a positive direction.
- Don’t gossip: "Never to lie about someone or embellish the truth." Gossiping or putting people down is one of the best ways to detract positive friendships. So, no getting off on other people’s hardships. Just allow it to be.
- Never lie: Lying is just such a turn off for a positive relationship because if there is a problem and you are lying about it, then it can’t be solved. With trust being a major component to attracting positive people into your life, lying will certainly sabotage that. If there is something that you don't want to speak about, just don't say anything.
- Don’t compare yourself or your life with your friends: The only time that this can be healthy is if someone is doing or achieving something that you would like to achieve. Then, you can feel better knowing that if they can do it, so can you. Otherwise enjoy the differences in one another’s lives.
- Care for you: Yes, take care of yourself. Be your best friend. Love yourself unconditionally, eat healthy nutritious foods, and take charge of your emotions and thoughts to bring about feelings of gratitude, love, and warmth into your life.
- Don’t take on other people’s problems: This can sometimes be a difficult one, especially with family, spouses, children and so on. But this is an absolutely necessary one to develop positive friendships. You may have well worked through what they are going through, and are feeling really able to help. But unless they ask for this, just listen. Then just allow it to be!