Benzo is not a mood stabilizer its only anti anxiety medication you need to be on a mood stabilizer to stabilize your mood
This could be a sign of depression. If it is accompanied by excessive sleepiness, this could be what we call a typical depression because usual major depressive disorders usually insomnia happen with decreased or poor appetite. However, even though you said she doesn't look like she is having an eating disorder, bulimia nervosa and binge-eating disorder should be ruled out.
First, I'd need to know if you are diagnosed right for OCD. Also, what medication are you taking? There is a variety of medications that are FDA-approved for OCD treatment. The medication of choice is clomipramine. The other medications that are approved for OCD are Prozac, Zoloft, Paxel and Luvox. Discuss your symptoms and side effects with your doctor and he/she will find better treatment for you.
It is best for your husband to go to a urologist and he needs to check his testosterone level. Talk to him and it's best for him to seek medical advice.