They say all things heal over time. One thing I tried was going to a 'grief group'. It was ok... but not great. I did not know the other people well, they were always changing, as it was a drop in program. But it might help you. If you really feel awful you could also try an anti-depressant, but that is just a band-aid, it won't stop you from grieving, which you need to do. But medication might temporarily help with your pain. Then if you feel better you can taper back off the medication with the help of your doctor.
If you are using any illicit drugs, stop. If you drink more than 2 or 3 glasses of alcohol/day- stop. All can contribute to worsening depression & anxiety. If you smoke cigarettes, quit. Ask your primary care doctor for help. Don't wait until you feel so miserable you cannot function. Get help now.
Laura J. Seed, M.D.
This has been extensively studied and is considered the "standard of care." In other words, find a therapist, which can be the psychiatrist, or an LMFT, LCSW, PH.D, or any psychologist who is thoroughly trained. If you go to a non-psychiatrist, the therapist will recommend a psychiatrist right away if she or he thinks that it's important (given your description, that is). If you are not eager to take medication, then start ASAP with a therapist, as soon as you can get an appointment. Don't be shy about telling your loved ones you feel depressed &/or suicidal. They need to know & can provide you with support. They might even help you out by helping you find a psychiatrist &/or a therapist to go to. Start with your heath insurance co. Call them up & ask for names of both therapists, as I mentioned above, and psychiatrists. Then, go in & see someone, SOON! DON'T WAIT. Depression does not just go away on its own. You need treatment (help). There is no stigma in getting treatment; in fact, it is just the opposite. You are taking care of yourself & you are seeking care for a medical condition. You would do exactly the same if you broke your leg or had diabetes, right?
Laura J. Seed, M.D.