Take the focus you have had on your child, turn it on making your attitude conducive to a happy relaxed home, as Mom Sets the heart of the Home! Your focus is strong, your motives are pure, just tweak the direction. You will find your answers , you can do this!
I discovered anti-depressant pills in my daughter's cupboard yesterday. How should I confront her on this?
Consider waiting three days before saying anything to anyone, then ask yourself if you are interested in apologizing & causing discomfort to another who is already possibly strained?
Is that in their best interests?
Perhaps just being supportive in your actions is an option, without any ‘confrontation?’, you will do best to wait on a peaceful relaxed response.
She knows you cleaned her cupboard, so she knows, you know.
In my humble opinion,
C Marlo Baird, MD, MPH
This suggestion is counter intuitive, however, reality is that you are very much affected by their disease and no one else will take care of you in this difficult season. Too much for most people to go through the loneliness, the frustration, the anger, loss, and anxiety of an increasing disease of addiction in a family member. Start with Al-anon or Families Anonymous and find your own improved hope & direction. As you become calm and happy, less easily baited, he will see himself earlier. Your number one goal has to be to increase your quality of life. Number two ‘desire’ is that he will 'want what you have.' You can put effort in developing hope and recovering from the effects. One option is to research treatment options that are available in his insurance network or appealing in other ways, for the moment when ‘the person with the disease asks about treatment.’ Some keep life insurance policies paid up and practice ‘let go & let god.’ Your answers will be found by you, one day at a time. Sometimes one minute at a time. Be gentle on yourself & your family member; this is a tough deal.