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Adam Hamilton

Counselor | Professional

Dr. Adam Hamilton is an Addiction Medicine Physician in Rochester, MI. Dr. Hamilton evaluates patients using many different procedures, in order to determine what treatments must be carried out in order to properly assess their symptoms. Addiction Medicine Physicians provide medical care in addition to consultation for each patient and their families.
11 years Experience
Adam Hamilton
  • Rochester, MI
  • Oakland University
  • Accepting new patients

My mother has dementia, and is starting to forget my daughter. How can I explain this to my daughter?

Discussing these matters with children is a tricky matter that most parents will face. My recommendation is that we avoid being dishonest or giving children a false sense that READ MORE
Discussing these matters with children is a tricky matter that most parents will face. My recommendation is that we avoid being dishonest or giving children a false sense that things will eventually go back to "normal" when, in reality, they will not. This will only temporarily provide relief and will ultimately cause more confusion and pain while potentially damaging trust and a child's sense of safety. I believe that the best course of action is to explain that the loved one is sick and that the sickness has caused certain changes in the loved one. Perhaps letting your daughter know that grandma is sick and that part of her condition is that she will lose her ability to remember things including people who she loves. Additionally, dementia patients may have some good days and some bad days, and ultimately, they will always struggle with their memory and the struggle may get worse over time. Most importantly, let your daughter know that it makes perfect sense that she would be sad about this and that it is best to talk about this sadness at times. Avoidance of the feelings and talking about changes in grandma will likely delay and complicate the inevitability of your daughter having to grieve the loss of grandma as she has known her. Counseling for her (perhaps with your involvement) could be extremely helpful in supporting a healthy grieving process.

Best wishes,

Adam

Does my child require counseling after the death of her grandmother?

Hi, Great question. I think that the simple answer is that counseling could certainly assist your daughter with the grieving process. (For what it's worth, it could also assist READ MORE
Hi,

Great question. I think that the simple answer is that counseling could certainly assist your daughter with the grieving process. (For what it's worth, it could also assist you!) The other thing that a good counselor/therapist can do is further evaluate your daughter to determine if the distress she may be currently experiencing is the expected grief-response or if something else might be going on. Given that it sounds like your mother's passing was quite difficult, your daughter may have found aspects of it to be somewhat traumatic. A competent counselor/therapist would be able to help her in either event.

I'm very sorry for your loss and I'm hopeful that you are also taking good care of yourself at this time as well. In addition to counseling, this is another gift that you can give your daughter.

Take care!

Adam Hamilton