“We dated when we were younger. But, I heard she got married and it was like a kick in my gut."

“We dated when we were younger and I was crazy about her. But, I heard she got married and it was like a kick in my gut. I decided to track her down, invite her to lunch just to catch up. There was no denying the spark. The conversation and the wine flowed. And afterwards, I was sick from guilt and too much wine. Our affair lasted 8 years. Until I got busted. And just as quickly as it started, it stopped.  -John, Age 45

Putting yourself in this position in the first place wasn’t very wise. We all rationalize that it’s for old time’s sake, nostalgia, and harmless fun. The feelings you once had can be magnified in the name of lost love. The best way to keep from hurting the former love and the current love is not think you can innocently meet up. It will save everyone heartache.