Telling the School
In order to get the best possible experience at college, it is important to be honest with your new educational provider. While it is understandable that people who live with lupus want to be seen separately from their illness, it is still important to show honesty and open communication in order to reap the benefits you deserve from the school. There is no point in suffering unnecessarily. Of course, it is your disease and you can tell people about your disease when you choose to. However, it is important to know that your educator will not see it as a bad thing. In fact, many universities want to see how their prospective students deal with obstacles because it shows the school that the student in question is resilient. Resilience is of the utmost importance at university. Furthermore, the earlier they know about it, the easier it will be to get the accommodations necessary for you to be as equipped as possible to complete school on your own terms.
As people who live with lupus know, there is a lot that lupus patients learn. Think about all of the skills and tools you have picked up from this experience and frame it as a positive. Maybe you don’t work as quickly as you used to because you have to allow yourself more breaks. That’s okay! In fact, that’s great because it taught you a very strict form of time management which puts you at an advantage. It is important to remember that you deserve to be at the school of your dreams and that dealing with chronic illness, while it does come with it’s downsides, has also made you grow and change in plenty of positive ways.
Conversely, do not make your whole life about lupus. It is important to find balance. While being honest is important, make sure that whether you tell the school through a college essay, interview, or phone call, that they do not only see you as someone with lupus. Make sure to paint a full picture of yourself, including your interests, hobbies, and goals.