15. Being assertive, NOT aggressive. There is a subtle but very important difference.
Aggressive and assertive are far from the same, but sometimes it's difficult to draw the line. Even worse is passive aggression. Many passive aggressive people are completely unaware of their implications, no matter how clear they are to others. The most important thing to remember here? Be straightforward. Communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. Why murk it up with negative or vague language?
Here are some examples of what to say and what not to say:
Aggressive language: "Did you seriously not clean the bathroom again? How many times do I have to ask?! It takes 20 minutes!"
Passive aggressive language: "While I'm busy at work, would you be able to clean the bathroom if you aren't too busy playing video games, or whatever it is you do all day?"
Assertive language: "Could you please clean the bathroom while I'm out today?"
See the difference? Your partner does, too.