14. But that doesn't mean you can't have any flaws. Own up to them!
Absolutely nobody is perfect! The perfect boyfriend or perfect girlfriend simply does not exist. And nobody looks for the "perfect" partner since they aren't perfect themselves. So, instead of trying to hide your flaws, own up to them. The right partner will appreciate and respect your honesty and clarity.
The best way to do this is to just LISTEN. If your partner says to you, "It makes me feel ______ when you ______," don't react. Just listen and absorb. Do you understand where they're coming from? If not, talk some more until you do. How can you use what your partner is sharing with you to be the best person you can be for them?
And this goes both ways, of course. Any discussion about personality and emotion should be completely open, especially when you tell your partner you aren't happy, and it should foster a feeling of togetherness--NOT you vs. them. Accepting and owning your flaws gives you an opportunity to grow as a person, and it shows that you're authentic and comfortable in your own skin.