Healthy Living

State of the Union: Are Couples Having Less Sex?

"Sexual banter" and masturbation are replacing hookups

For those who are not in a relationship, apps like Tinder actually reduce their likelihood of having sex. Crazy, right? Amanda Pasciucco is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and she explains a new phenomenon associated with the abundance of online platforms, "in the age of tinder, people are having more cybersex. Sexting and sending photos is rampant, and I have heard more and more people reporting to me that they send nude photos to people they've never met - and never intend to meet!"

If you think this sounds too outlandish to be true, Francie L. Stone, a clinical psychologist, has picked up on the same phenomenon. She says, "in speaking with young women and men, it seems (they use) dating and hookup apps more as a way to affirm themselves. The women in particular say that they use these apps when they are drunk or bored. They never meet up and have no intention to; they just enjoy the sexual banter. They're using it as a replacement for 'real-life' sexx and to explore their own sexuality, what they may like and what they may not like, all in the safety of their own environment."

In turn, this leads to replacing sex with masturbation. Holly Richmond, a certified sex therapist, discusses the impact this can have, "I think young singles having less sex boils down to them having more choice. They can be picky, and they are. If it can't be a stellar experience, they'd rather not bother when they know they can go home to great porn and high-quality toys that deliver grade-A Orgasms."