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These 12 Women Never Had the Big 'O' - Can the Relationship Survive?

Orgasms are important. But staying in the moment is better than that big finish

Considering how relaxing sex is, it’s pretty ironic that people feel so much pressure to reach a climax or get their partner to do so. Men often experience a sexual inadequacy if their partner fails to achieve an orgasm, while women frequently feel guilty or will employ 'faking it' rather than disappointing their partner. Many individuals hold the misguided belief that without a climactic finish, sex is incomplete, but this simply is not true. In fact, making the end, the sole focus on one’s intimacy takes away from the encounter as a whole and can even prevent one or both partners from “the big O.”

The advice of multiple sex therapists, is simply to stay in the moment and enjoy the sensations rather than push for a big finale. “While you can’t promise your partner an orgasm every time,” says Dr. Marty Klein, “you can promise your full attention every time.”