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I feel like there's not any other option besides suicide?

Recently I sat on my (qualifying) 'o' level exam and yes I got totally bad grades. After having such grades, the pandemic hits, and now I'm sitting at my home feeling so empty because that grade won't bring me anywhere. My parents once said if I didn't get this diploma level after I'm in 5th grade, he won't be talking to me as if he didn't consider me as his son. So like idk I feel like I got no choice but to suicide.

Male | 18 years old

7 Answers

I'm sorry to hear about your grades. But this is not a reason to commit suicide!
I understand your frustration and concerns. I understand that you would like to please your parents with good grades. I understand that what your parents said to you is feeding these types of emotions in you and feeding thoughts that are not at all healthy.
Suicide will NEVER be the answer. It would only cause more pain and suffering to those who love you. I suggest you speak to your parents about this matter and your PCP.
You are still young and there are lots of options out there for you to be able to succeed in life. Remember that you should always do this for yourself first. Do not give up on yourself and always believe in yourself. Contact your PCP and talk to them about this matter and seek referrals.
The problem with suicide is that it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Let's start with the issue of your parents and the comment your dad made regarding not talking to you dependent upon academic achievements. I don't know anything about your parents but I do know one thing for sure- Your dad has a limitation. A HUGE limitation. He expressed valuing your grades and academic achievements above and beyond valuing YOU as his son. I cannot even imagine the pain you must have felt and continue to feel from that. What is very important to recognize, however, is that was and is a reflection on your dad and HIS stuff and has nothing to do with you. By the way, to achieve "good grades" it takes more than being smart and studying. If you've been in an environment with pressure from your parents/dad to achieve "good grades, or else" it is incredibly difficult to work under that kind of stress/anxiety. A person's environment can greatly impact results. What I strongly suggest is that you reach out to a therapist and begin to work through some of this pain. You can always kill yourself at some later time, that isn't being taken away from you. At least you will have the opportunity to have a supportive person help you work through some of this stuff so you will be better able to make an educated decision about what you want to do. I think you've been through enough pain and you deserve to have some relief.
Call the suicide prevention line for your area. Consider voluntary committing yourself for immediate help and evaluation.
That is a terrible way to feel – I guarantee you that you will feel better if you give the world a chance to help you. Please go to your local hospital and tell them you are feeling like this. Talk to a sympathetic doctor, or nurse, or psychologist (which is what I am), and  they will say just what I am saying. Many people fail these exams– or medical exams, law exams, auditions, etc., and go on to either pass them, or change their career plans to do something they really want to do. Your father said a terrible thing – perhaps he thought it would motivate you. But you don’t have to listen to that. You MUST not listen to that. Instead, please take yourself for some help. Again, I GUARANTEE you will feel better if you stay alive to discover what you really are meant to do in this one life we are given.

Peace, and a good life to you,

Dr. Marian Shapiro
Suicide is a choice, we all have choices how to live and die. I hope you forgive yourself for your lackings, and we all have lacking, and finding a new purpose. I hope you will choose to set new goals vs. a way out of your life. I hope you choose mercy and compassion and give yourself another choice to live...you're worth it.
I am so very sorry to read about your unfortunate circumstances. However, my dear, suicide is not an option to resolve this problem. All we can do in our life to keep trying and hope for good results. This world is full of genius people but not ever genius is successful. The successful people are those who persevere. Please see your doctor right away or go to nearest hospital if you continue to feel suicidal. You should be seeing a therapist and bring your dad to therapy so that he could also understand that there need to be some flexibility and you can only study to the best of your ability, but cannot control the results.

Laeeq Tahir, MBBS., MD., FRCPC
You need to go to an emergency room immediately.