Consider waiting three days before saying anything to anyone, then ask yourself if you are interested in apologizing & causing discomfort to another who is already possibly strained?
Is that in their best interests?
Perhaps just being supportive in your actions is an option, without any ‘confrontation?’, you will do best to wait on a peaceful relaxed response.
She knows you cleaned her cupboard, so she knows, you know.
Thanks for your question. First I want to remind you that your daughter is an adult and has a right to protect her health information. If you are concerned about her health I would suggest taking her out for a mother daughter date, and talking about her life and how are things going for her. If you have a relationship built on trust, and acceptance chances are she will talk to you about her problems. Remember if she has a prescription for antidepressants chances are that a health care professional that she trust prescribe them for her. You are lucky to have a daughter that takes charge of her health, and is not afraid to ask for help when she needs it.
If you want to know how to help your daughter I would suggest that you go to the NIMH website and read information on how to help a loved one that suffers from depression and anxiety. I hope this helps.
Btw, I’m not so smart. I let a niece move in, my adult son said this to me... I’m the psychiatrist, I know what I’m doing!!! No I didn’t and boy I wish I had listened. Anyway, truth is always nice. If you think she seems depressed, sad, unmotivated, etc., maybe she’s depressed and getting appropriate care and doesn’t want to share. Or she’s depressed, but can’t afford care and so she’s using something a friend gave her. Probably not so good. I would start with “I found these...” if they’re a Rx in her name, probably good. If not, you need to know. It’s even possible she’s hiding some street drug in a bottle to try to hide it. If you own the house, you can throw her out. Get a lease. If you rent and she’s doing something shady, you could all wind up on the street. Or in jail. Her doctor can’t tell you stuff, but you could say you found them and you're concerned and maybe they can get her to catch you up. But mostly, you can ask and pray and make her leave, none are good options.
and if not, suggest to her that she consults a psychiatrist or psychologist to make certain that it is necessary and if it is the drug of choice. Her not telling you could possibly mean that she is afraid of your response to her, and it is important to get her to trust you that you are on her side and respect her need to make her own decisions.
Donald A. Moses MD
I will wait and respect the daughter’s privacy.
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Have a Heart to Heart talk with your daughter, tell her that you want to have good Mother-Daughter Relationship; that you are there to understand her feelings, needs and stresses in her life; and ask if she is getting counseling and medication for stresses, and what you can do to support her.