“What is the best way to handle sibling rivalry?”
My elder daughter is very jealous of my younger one to the extent that she even gets violent and very angry. How can I deal with this? They are 14 and 12.
6 Answers
There are so many variables to this issues. Sibling rivalry is normal, but what you have described, may be the result of a deeper issue. I highly recommend that you seek therapy in your area as soon as possible to hopefully get to the bottom of what is bothering your eldest daughter. She may not have an issue with her sister particularly, but uses her as the target to express her feelings about something else.
You have to go to psychofamily therapy.
Put the two in a small room with no toys. Give them a pad and pen and indicate they have to come up with a solution to their conflict before they can leave the room. And you are the judge as to whether you can accept the solution or not.
Jealousy is normal up to a point, but this situation seems beyond that point (“violent”). Either the situation requires family counseling (you, a partner if you have one, and both girls, or one and/or the other daughter needs a therapist). Why not go to see a consultant in family therapy and get a recommendation? Meanwhile, do try to prevent violence. Violent behavior hurts the violent person as well as the victim.
Peace,
Marian Kaplun Shapiro
Peace,
Marian Kaplun Shapiro
Talk to the elder daughter while giving her your upmost attention and love. If that doesn’t help then ask her if she would see a therapist.
This is not an unusual situation - go to the following website - gives twenty tips:
https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/discipline-behavior/bothersome-behaviors/sibling-rivalry/20-tips-stop-quibbling
https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/parenting/discipline-behavior/bothersome-behaviors/sibling-rivalry/20-tips-stop-quibbling
