I appreciate your taking initiative to resolve the issues regardless of your marital status. There are many couples, regardless of whether they live together or not, seek therapy. They may not tell others as sometimes in our society there is a stigma about people seeking therapy. So, I would encourage you to seek counseling as a couple, when needed, and not worry about whether other people pursue it or not. Just ensure that you are going to a licensed psychologist or a licensed marital/couple therapist who are experienced in helping you deal with those issues.
Hope this is helpful,
Nancy Warren, PhD
Dr James A. Manganello
The term couples therapy can be confusing to some individuals, particularly for fellows who aren't married yet are living as a married couple. If the focus of counseling is towards the relationship, then, yes couples counseling is effective to assist in resolving/overcoming relationship problems while solidifying the relationship.