Councelor/Therapist Questions Marriage Counseling

How effective is marriage counseling?

My husband and I have been experiencing some serious problems, and I want to try marriage counseling to save our marriage from falling apart. But does it really work?

9 Answers


Thank you for your question. Marriage counseling can be a great way to explore and resolve any underlying issues in the relationship by having a professional mental health counselor identify, evaluate, mediate, and provide solutions for problems. Often times, couples fail to communicate effectively so therapy can be a helpful resource to improve the way you and your partner relate and talk to each other.
I hope this has been helpful!


Jenna Torres, PsyD
It is important to identify key factors affecting your marriage as finances, co-parenting, infidelity, etc. An effective marriage counselor may assist you and your husband in obtaining necessary skills to improve communication, understanding, comprising, affection, etc. One has to be willing to recognize/accept their role in harming the marriage and open to change. It is a process, but acting as a team will help improve your marriage.
Marriage therapy does really work. Unfortunately, people will often wait too long to pursue treatment at which point the work can be very difficult. Marriage therapy does not work when only one member of the couple wants to work on the marriage.
Couples counseling can be very effective especially if both are willing to try and work on the relationship, you find a therapist that you both trust, and neither has already “checked out” of the relationship.
Counseling can be very effective. It really depends on how much you are willing to put into it and how much you are willing to change your attitudes and behaviors. If either or both of you are not willing to do what it takes to change, outside help will do no good.
There are two important factors that predict whether therapy is a success – how you rate your feelings about your therapist and how you rate your sense of progress during therapy. Keep in mind that the client is both you and your husband. Both need to be active participants. If you would like to read some research about the effectiveness of Marriage and Family Therapy you can find some on Psychology Today and Psychology Networker.
Psychotherapy Networker.
Marriage counseling takes both to participate, work on understanding your stuff and he needs to do the same in order to work on the both of you.
100%. Don't wait till it's too late. Marriage counseling isn't a "last ditch" effort one step before divorce. Marriage counseling is for those who are ready to put everything that they are comfortable with on the line to make their marriage the most important thing in their lives. It works. But it will require everything from both of you, and it will be 100% worth it.
Marital counseling can definitely be effective. Nonetheless, both parties have to be willing to invest effort into making individual changes.