“Is my boyfriend a sociopath? What do I do?”

Check if he is aware of his communication patterns and how he express his feelings. According to psychological investigations men have more communication problems than women. Also check how he is doing in his social judgements. A cognitive evaluation can identify some of the aspects i mentioned above. The W.A.I.S. instrument also can help and is the most used in adults. Invite him to go with you. If he dont want to go you can go alone to seek orientation.

Although you provide limited examples, and it would help to know more about your boyfriend to put his behavior in context, he may suffer from traits of a personality disorder or a full blown personality disorder. If you experience him overall as self-centered, lacking in empathy, grandiose or entitled, he has significant traits of narcissistic personality disorder. Consequently, you should consider ending the relationship since you will likely find yourself hurt, sad, and frustrated much of the time. Sociopaths also have these traits, but enjoy controlling, manipulating, and hurting others to get what they want or for entertainment. Narcissists generally hurt others as a result of prioritizing their own needs at the expense of others' needs or feelings. Sociopaths want to get to know you. Narcissists want you to know about them and to admire them.   

Sociopath or not, sounds like you don’t like him very much. Do you want a boyfriend you don’t like? The diagnosis of him isn’t the point - it is whether you want to be exclusively in relationship with him. Right?

Peace,

Dr. Marian Shapiro

I don’t know your boyfriend so I couldn’t possibly help you diagnose him. I also advise against diagnosing significant others because it leads to conflict. I suggest communicating openly and without judgment. It is possible that he may not be as socially or emotionally developed as you or he may be a little self-centered or he may not have been raised with the same social customs as you. Without all the background information, I always advise people not to jump to conclusions about such strong diagnoses. We all have a backstory and our current behavior usually reflects what we’ve seen or been reinforced for or all that we know. Maybe there’s a communication issue or a cultural issue or a social interaction differential. It’s worth a discussion that’s open minded and flexible.

No, it doesn’t. He is just a different person than you and what you may know.

Suggest you read the book, It's all my Fault by Bill Eddy. A great resource into reviewing personality disorders. This is a link to it:

https://www.amazon.com/Its-Your-Fault-Work-High-Conflict/dp/1936268663