If, however, you are simply feeling less happy than you could be, there could be a lot of explanations. Becoming a new mom can mean losing sleep, losing a sense of spontaneity, losing some independence, losing exclusivity in an intimate relationship. Having a child changes the dynamics in a relationship. Often, women are caregivers for their partners in many ways, and partners lose that exclusive attention they were receiving which can create conflict. Many women idealize what being a mom will be like, and reality can be quite a shock. Comparing ourselves to others often makes us feel inadequate, as we tend to compare ourselves only to people who have what we want. It is certainly possible that other moms are not quite as happy as they seem, but they may want to display a positive outlook on their lives via social media.
Remember to be good to yourself. It is important to take a break. If you are lucky enough to have trusted caregivers, have them watch your child so you can reconnect with yourself without having to be needed for everything.
You may be suffering from post-partum depression which is especially prevalent if any past history of depression, Recommend see a psychiatrist or your family physician as soon as possible...your family doctor can refer you to a psychiatrist in your area with expertise in this area. With a complete evaluation, a clearer understanding can be obtained and you may or may not require medication and you likely will be referred for therapy. Becoming a first time Mom is a big change afterall and it can feel overwhelming so talking with expert in the field can get you on the right path to feeling better, and more self assured and happy with yourself and your baby, Best of luck...You will be feeling better in no time after seeking help, Dr. Amy
This is genetic disorder as well.
All the best.
Medications even for a breastfeeding mom are useful. Zoloft for example has very little entry into the milk supply. Therapy and support groups are also helpful.
Carly Snyder, M.D.
Postpartum blues is a common condition. It is usually time limited (a few months). Sometimes it is severe - then, we call it a postpartum depression. Then, it leads to fears that you may hurt the baby. In this case, a diagnosis and treatment are indicated. It is time limited, but your mothering is impaired and you need treatment. The cause is considered to be a reaction to hormones which can get out of whack after pregnancy for a time. If you have enough negative feelings to complain, I would recommend that you see a mental health professional - a psychologist or psychiatrist. The advantage of a psychiatrist is the option of medication treatment if necessary. You might talk with your OB/GYN doctor about it.
Jan Fawcett, MD
Joanna Chambers, MD