"I didn't want to get divorced. We were barely getting by on two salaries"

I didn’t want to get divorced. We were barely getting by on 2 salaries. This way I got what I needed and what I craved. Everyone stayed together.” -Ben, Age 47

This rationale allows guys to cheat guilt free for the most part. Often they don’t feel bad about the affair. They do worry about the possible consequences. They can rationalize it...basically, it’s completely fine if no one knows and no one gets hurt.