What is an outgoing introvert?
Sometimes, an outgoing introvert show traits or features of an introvert, but certain things just don’t resonate with them, which can be seen in other extroverts. You may not spend time alone on weekends and would like to spend time out with friends. You may also have many friends with whom you spend valuable time. This is when you start thinking whether are you really an introvert or not. Probably, you are an outgoing introvert. Such people are just on the spectrum.
Outgoing introverts by heart have an introvert nature but may also show some behavior of extroverts. Such people are predictably unpredictable and are counterintuitive. Their mind keeps on going all the time, but they are also talkative and fun to be with.
The following are signs that can be seen in people who are outgoing introverts:
1. You are charming, but at the same time, reflective and deeply introspective.
When you want a deeper and more authentic conversation, you can make small talks. Around you, people feel comfortable and others also tend to open up with you and easily start talking to you. For others, you may appear to be chatty and easy going, but you know who you really are.
2. Your energy level depends on the environment.
Depending on the place, you may either feel energized or drained. You may also find it overwhelming if you are in a loud concert and in a crowd of people but may feel relaxed if the acoustic set is your favorite.
3. People are intriguing and exhausting.
Outgoing introverts like meeting new people and like to hear their fascinating stories. However, if you are told to hang out with a different group of friends every weeknight, then you would not like that since you need your own downtime. Hence, you enjoy socializing, but only for a short while. You need to recharge yourself and you want peace and quietness. You also want to be alone after a busy weekend.
4. You reach out to your friends once you have recharged yourself.
After you have spent some time alone, you would now crave to be with your friends.
5. At parties, you need some time to warm up.
One of the problems that outgoing introverts face is that they need to warm up before actually socializing with other people. However, they are fine once they become comfortable with the environment. Also, after the first meeting, they do not overshare things but tend to build trust over a period of time.
6. Uses less energy to speak out.
Outgoing introverts feel bored and drained when it comes to fake and small talks. They speak directly whatever is on their mind. It can be a real challenge, and they might find it draining to have small talks with people they hardly even know. Initially, you may try to manage the scenario, but after some time, you lose it when nothing meaningful is coming out of the conversation.
7. Selectively social.
What matters most is the quality of friends and not the number of friends. You may have a hard time finding people with whom you can connect, so your close friends are few. However, you don't mind having few friends.
8. You do not like proving yourself in front of others.
You just don't like getting other people’s attention. If in a party, you're just in a corner and hangs out with few people.
9. For an extrovert, you are a confused person.
Since you are so social, your family and friends will not realize that you are an introvert. Since you show traits of an extrovert, it may take a while for you and for others to realize that you are actually an introvert. By seeing your warm and hidden personality, they will not even recognize your contemplative and hidden soul. Other introverts will be able to understand your true nature only when they have a one-on-one conversation with you. These people have an advantage and that is they can relate to people of both kinds (extroverts and introverts).
10. You seek growth.
You like to keep working on yourself and you keep feeling this innate pull. You keep thinking and look for various ways, in which your career, health, and relationship, can have improvements. You are not ready to settle on one thing and you consistently seek growth. You do not mind making positive changes in your life and probably seek out other resources.
11. You don’t like the "silence" that makes you feel awkward.
Nobody likes an awkward silence, but to break down this awkward silence, an outgoing introvert will prompt a conversation or will ask a question. At that moment, you do not care whether the conversation or the question is weird or silly. Your main motto is that everybody should get involved. In these circumstances, you may seem to be talkative and engaged, but actually, you do not disclose any of your personal matters.
Introvert vs. Extrovert
According to studies, the way the brain works in an introvert and extrovert is not the same, and these two behavioral spectrums are not just imaginary words.
When a social cue is provided, and rewards are offered, it has been found that a better response is obtained from an extrovert, whereas to motivate an introvert, internal rewards and ideas are needed. On the level that our brain works, it has been found that more focus is given to the external world by an extrovert while more focus on the internal world is shown by introverts.
The following are some the differences between introverts and extroverts:
- Behavior - Extroverts show energetic behavior. They are talkative and are outgoing. Introverts, on the other hand, are solitary and reserved.
- Attitude - An extrovert shows more interest in external activities. Extroverts also show more focus and interest in the social world. However, introverts are more inclined to mentally prioritizing ideas, which is an internal activity.
- Energy - Extroverts get their energy by socially interacting with others. They get their energy when they are around other people. Their energy is drained when they are alone. Introverts like to spend their time alone just to derive energy. Their energy gets drained when they are surrounded by other people.
- Conversation - Extroverts often like to share what is going on in their mind. They like to share their ideas, and as they talk about it, they also develop their own opinions. In the case of introverts, they often like to keep their ideas to themselves.
- Brain Sensitivity - When rewards and external reward cues are provided, extroverts respond better and are more sensitive to it, while introverts respond better to internal reward cues and punishments.
- Descriptive Language - When extroverts have to describe something, they do not give much detail and their description is more of an abstract, whereas, in the case of introverts, they like to give a detailed description that is more concrete.
- Risk - Extroverts get involved in risky behaviors while introverts often engage themselves in low-risk behaviors. They often prefer avoiding risks.
- Goals - Extroverts often choose immediate gratification, while introverts are the total opposite. Introverts tend to choose long-term goals than immediate gratification.
- Overall Happiness - Compared to introverts, the overall happiness experienced by extroverts is always more. They always report happiness that is of a higher level while introverts have reported lower levels of happiness.
- Productivity - In an environment that favors collaboration, extroverts are more productive. In an environment that allows concentration and where there is no disturbance, introverts are found to be more productive.
Careers for Introverts
Many careers could be fit for you if you are an introvert. When introverts select a career, one of the criteria would be a limited interaction with people. Moreover, the tasks in the job should be within a small group and often involves independent work. The following would be great jobs that can fit introverted people:
- Animal Care and Service Workers - involves caring for animals. Their job mainly involves animal feeding, training, exercise, and grooming. This option can be a good one since the interaction is more with animals than humans.
- Archivist - a professional who organizes, assesses, collects, and permanently preserves records or archives. To become an archivist, a master's degree in library science, archival science, history, or a related field must be completed. Here, interaction with people is less since more work is done on a computer.
- Astronomer - involves the study celestial bodies. Astronomers work with a small team and the rest of their time is spent on computers. There is also a lot of independent work involved.
- Court Reporter - involves an accurate recording of spoken words and gestures of a proceeding. Court reporters also have the responsibility of keeping the written records, whether they are from the court, government, or private settings. Although an introvert would be exposed to a crowd of many people in this job, interaction is quite rare.
- Film Editor - The responsibilities of film editors include working and manipulating raw camera footage, sound effects, dialogue, and special effects. In this job, interaction is within a small group of people. It also involves working in front of a computer for a long time.
- Financial Clerk - involves administrative work. Some people may spend time working on a computer, but some may have to interact with customers. So before you opt for this career, be clear about the kind of job you would be comfortable doing.
- Geoscientist - work involves studying the earth's structure and composition. Geoscientists work with a small team and often involve independent work. To get into an entry-level position, a bachelor’s degree is required.
- Industrial Machine Repairer - involves fixing equipment in factories or industrial sites. Aside from having mechanical skills, a computer programming skill is also needed. The job mainly involves machines than people. A high school degree is needed along with a one-year training job.
- Medical Records Technician - involves organizing health information data. Interaction is usually with the nurses and doctors and not much with the patient. Hence, they are not in the spotlight and the job is more of behind-the-scenes type. The job also involves more of computer work.
- Social Media Manager - this is more of an online work. Social media managers do engage with their colleagues and employers, but their interaction is not a direct one.