Dr. Claire PSY. D.
And in each instance, it was my responsibility, as a therapist, to establish my clients' trust and help them overcome their reluctance and resistance. It made working with these clients that much more fulfilling for me and strengthened the effectiveness of therapy for the client.
It sound like you are in a chicken/egg situation where you don't know how to start. Maybe you can think a little bit about if you afraid of specific kinds of situations with the psychologist? Do you have a good friend you trust who has also seen a therapist? You might be able to ask them if they had any of these fears and how they overcame them to start therapy.
Most mental health providers know it is tough for folks to trust a stranger with very personal information and work hard so that the folks coming to see them feel comfortable. Some clients choose to start off in therapy with a less intense issue and then add in other concerns as they trust their therapist more as time goes by.
In some cases, just booking the first session and absolutely committing to going to it can show you that the real situation is not as bad as your fears. That is helpful for some people, they just jump in. This concern is something you could mention when scheduling the appointment so the psychologist knows you are feeling very nervous and can help you get more comfortable during the start-up.
So treat your upcoming visit as if you are consulting any professional you are familiar with - if you don't like the person, don't hire him or her - find another!
Marian K. Shapiro