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How can I control my emotions in the moment?

I am a 30 year old female. I am a very emotional person. How can I control my emotions in the moment?

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You are not coming of transition for a woman, but best answer is to get tested with a good checkup. Hormones, blood, urine and woman checkup. You may have a sensitive or thin aura. You maybe empathic. There are techniques to help strengthen you energy chakras and aura cleanse.
Try to count to 10 and in doing so, think about what you are about to say can hurt you and others. Being silent and walking away is great
My suggestion is to implement "self talk" in those moments and ask yourself what is going on and is triggering me and to envision a hugh red (traffic) stop sign--key--is the 2 C's--to be CALM and in CONTROL. Needless to say, this is easier said than done but seeking insight oriented therapy that emphasizes emotional intelligence would be helpful.
The first step is to become aware when you are becoming emotional. Then decide how you want to proceed, walk away if the emotion is too strong to control or manage it in the moment. You can also give yourself time throughout the day to express and experience all the emotions you have been experiencing that day.

Thank you for your question. There are lots of ways to control your emotions in the moment! Some of these ways include deep diaphragmatic breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, grounding exercises, mindfulness meditation, practicing positive mantras or positive self-talk, guided imagery and visualization, and journaling or stream of consciousness writing.
I hope this has been helpful!


Jenna Torres, PsyD
Thanks for asking. One important technique is being in the moment and focusing on something that can help calm you. You may want to consider using therapy as a way to develop some skills in this area.

I suggest learning mindfulness techniques and being present to be in the moment.

Set a daily goal calendar! 2-3 daily goals to keep your focused and directed. Also, please be compassionate and easy on yourself. We are currently living in anything but ‘normal life.’ Take care!
Control your emotions is not always easy. I would recommend that you seek out a professional counselor in your area or utilize an online telehealth professional to aid you in identifying triggers, emotional response patterns, and identify effective coping skills to manager your responses.
Keep a rubber band around your wrist and snap it to remind you to relax.
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