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Dr. S. Faye Snyder

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Dr. S. Faye Snyder
  • Granada Hills, California
  • PsyD in Family Therapy at California Graduate Institute
  • Accepting new patients

How can I boost my self-esteem and confidence?

Self-esteem if often a head start that our parents give us in early childhood when we learn that we are valuable. Many of us who are cherished don't get that message if we READ MORE
Self-esteem if often a head start that our parents give us in early childhood when we learn that we are valuable. Many of us who are cherished don't get that message if we are handed over to someone else. Maybe we are disregarded by busy parents or even parents who weren't cherished themselves and don't have it in them. Some are over regarded and have parents who do everything for them. in any event, self-esteem is an idea handed to us about what we are worth, and somehow we put our self-worth up against others. We are all born divine. There is nothing ever wrong with us, except, perhaps what we learn to think. We are not our idea of ourselves. I was once asked to teach self-esteem in my child's kindergarten class, and I refused. The truth is, true self-worth is earned. However, it requires an ability to express ourselves freely and appropriately. Thus, we need to know how to treat others, so they treat us well in return.
Second, we need to find our niche. Then, take it on. Be curious. Make lots of mistakes trying. Fall down. Get up and try again. Let nothing stop you. Success and regard for others will give you your self-esteem. Learn relationship skills, especially how to give feedback and have a clean disagreement with regard. Expertise and the regard of others (because you regard them) will give you your self-esteem.

Is this normal?

All habits that are being broken take time and practice. I used to listen to rock and roll on the freeway, and my Zen master said to keep the radio off. I did. It was hard at first, READ MORE
All habits that are being broken take time and practice. I used to listen to rock and roll on the freeway, and my Zen master said to keep the radio off. I did. It was hard at first, but I found that I was having insights such that I still leave it off sometimes to process. We need time to process unacknowledged things that need our attention.

Xanax with extended release melatonin?

I am not an MD. I don't think one pill on top of the other is dangerous, especially since the second pill was a natural substance over the counter. I think people who overdose READ MORE
I am not an MD. I don't think one pill on top of the other is dangerous, especially since the second pill was a natural substance over the counter. I think people who overdose take significantly more than that. It sounds like the loss of your mom was traumatic and maybe you could talk about it in depth with a professional.

I'm having issues with depression and cognition?

Once again, you are another person taking medication for issues that have been buried probably since early childhood. Now you think they are inborn issues. If you get quiet, what READ MORE
Once again, you are another person taking medication for issues that have been buried probably since early childhood. Now you think they are inborn issues. If you get quiet, what do you think and feel? These are clues to what you are trying to medicate away. You have a fear of feeling and expressing feelings, but that's how we heal. I am not talking about triggers today that seem to be cause or feelings for "no apparent reason". I am talking about buried and unexpressed feelings which cannot ever go away unexpressed. Grab a pillow and some privacy and give the little girl a voice.

Should I lower my dosage after having a crippling panic attack?

I'm so sorry. You are being socially and medically misled. The reasons you have these feelings probably stem back to very early childhood, like a child whose mother left her to READ MORE
I'm so sorry. You are being socially and medically misled. The reasons you have these feelings probably stem back to very early childhood, like a child whose mother left her to go to work when she was an infant or toddler. If so, you believed you were not enough to keep her, and you learned to believe that there is nothing you can count on and no one to trust. Beyond that you have learned to believe that you are not supposed to have these feelings. They are very disquieting. What you need to do is get those feelings out. That's the way evolution designed us. No one can successfully repress feelings. They have to leave he body. So anxiety should be cried (as in wailing), screamed for fear or raged out for betrayal or emotional injury. Grab a pillow. I keep one in my car at all times. Eventually, if you give the pillow your deepest most painful feelings (probably from buried memories), you will become current. You won't need medication. Warning: It is difficult to do this on medications so next time you think the medication isn't working, try it. Get out as much as you can, and then see how you feel.

DNA testing for mental health issues?

There is no evidence, despite the hype, that mental health issues are genetically derived. For that reason, there cannot be any such test. A good assessment of your early childhood READ MORE
There is no evidence, despite the hype, that mental health issues are genetically derived. For that reason, there cannot be any such test. A good assessment of your early childhood issues or any under-acknowledged trauma would explain what is bothering you. Children whose mothers put them in daycare in the first few years of life often have such issues. Even if your favorite aunt took care of you or Mother Teresa, herself, it wouldn't change things. We need our person in the first years, and when our person leaves, we think it's because of us. We have difficulty trusting and/or we develop ongoing anxiety of being left or not being enough. Similarly we could develop depression or alternating depression and anxiety. If you were raised in a family that didn't allow complaining of feelings or modeled a lack of expressing feelings of injury, that would make things worse, because you would not be encouraged to get those feelings out, which is the way we heal. If I were you I would get myself a good fat "decorator" pillow into which you can scream on behalf of the child you used to be and start emptying out your hurt, mistrust, fear, anger or rage. Buried feelings create your symptoms. You need to do it, though, on behalf of the child you were, not who you are today. You are probably suffering from a repression ethic. If you were raised in a family that blames rather than self-reflects, it's even worse. If you suffered abuse, including criticism and feeling misunderstood or had little guidance, these are all additions causes of anxiety, especially if you withheld your urge to cry.

Anti-anxiety medicine?

Anxiety has a cause, usually in early childhood and triggered by immediate circumstances. Often the same sort of event, with a slight variation, can make the difference between READ MORE
Anxiety has a cause, usually in early childhood and triggered by immediate circumstances. Often the same sort of event, with a slight variation, can make the difference between an adult who has anxiety or an adult who has depression. They may go together. So, you have to take a look at your childhood. First find out how old you were when you primary caregiver returned to work. Evolution had us gradually leaving our parents in stages from the time we walk until kindergarten age. When it's rushed, the first year is the worst, the second year, the second worst, and so on. If you had multiple caregivers, you were not able to form a secure attachment, which leaves us as insecure adults. Add to that, high demands, a critical parent, and you are guaranteed anxiety/depression as an adult. So, your job, to avoid medication, and heal up to half of what you suffered very young, is to find a safe place with a pillow and cry hard and scream into the pillow on behalf of the baby you were. (Mothers have not been informed of the critically important role they provide an infant of security and self-worth. It's a failing of the psychology industry.) The number of times needed to release depends upon the depth of your injury and the degree of release. When you are finished, rest and contemplate the truth, that there is nothing wrong with you if you don't depend upon the opinions of others and, instead, choose to look at life as an adventure enjoy this rare opportunity, called life, to discover this amazing place. Contemplate the difference of a life of discovery over a life of self-consciousness. Give up a need for identity in anyone else's eyes. Go for true living. Gabor Mate once said, "We are born with two needs. One is to be loved and the other is to be authentic. Unfortunately, too many of us give up our need to live an authentic life in order to be loved."
Good luck.

Dr. Faye

OCD?

First, good job asking. Second, when it's time to do the right thing, including take care of yourself, what people think shouldn't be a factor. Some homes do create that kind of READ MORE
First, good job asking. Second, when it's time to do the right thing, including take care of yourself, what people think shouldn't be a factor. Some homes do create that kind of shame over any endeavors to address family issues, but people who have broken through to heal, didn't care, and in healthier families, they'd rather see you get better than see you pretend to be fine when you aren't. In most cases, the seeds of depression are set before the age of five. The most common cause is a broken attachment. If mom goes back to work before the age of five, or worse three, or even worse in the first year of life, it's as if the ground moved out from underneath. There is then broken trust, broken security, and broken self-worth. When memories lack words (infancy), they are stored as foundational, but too inaccessible to create self-awareness. This is also the case for generalized anxiety disorder. Both depression and anxiety have been on the rise since babies entered daycare en masse, something never before seen in the history of civilization. I am a feminist, but I know every baby needs their person, whoever that is. Their person is irreplaceable. Mother Teresa could not stand in for the parent. Their person has to an ever-present presence in their life, until they are ready to outgrow their parent (ages three to kindergarten). This is the reason why we have so many social issues developing: depression, anxiety, dependency, stalking, social phobias, substance abuse and overdoses, tattoos and piercings, suicides, domestic violence, mean girls, bullies, and shooters. I regret to tell you that thus far, graduate schools are not addressing this problem in training therapists, so you need to find someone who understands the long-term effects of broken or insecure attachments (which require attunement as well as continuity) and knows how to treat attachment trauma. Otherwise, the going treatment is medication. There is a cause for depression, so if it's not the cause I just identified, you need to do some detective work, within yourself and perhaps with interviews of family members. Find the cause and address it. Causes always lie, by the way. Healing always requires honest acknowledgement of causes, despite loyalties.

Dr. Faye

Antipsychotic?

I'm not sure you would want to hear my response. You might find it too controversial. This involves facing harmful treatment and messages from parents (who were children too). READ MORE
I'm not sure you would want to hear my response. You might find it too controversial. This involves facing harmful treatment and messages from parents (who were children too). I would seriously review the early events of my childhood to identify the source of my paranoia. I would then tease these false messages apart and operate from the position that my paranoia is based upon unresolved trauma. I would face my fears head on and prove to myself that they once happened, but they happen no longer. I would attempt to resolve that trauma, as you are no longer a vulnerable child. Further, I would work to develop the ability to identify the difference between beliefs and facts. It is my opinion that paranoia and schizophrenia are not inborn. Paranoia comes from sudden, unexpected trauma, and schizophrenia comes from intolerable mixed messages. You need to sort out truth from fiction, and you need to get out repressed feelings about how you were treated. This could include screaming and crying, perhaps into a pillow. There are therapists who can help you with this.

Dr. Faye

Is it normal to cry a lot after having a baby?

No, it's not normal. It is indicative of postpartum depression. The first thing I would want to find out is whether your mother worked while you were an infant, or if you had to READ MORE
No, it's not normal. It is indicative of postpartum depression. The first thing I would want to find out is whether your mother worked while you were an infant, or if you had to wait for mothering for some reason. If that happened, you would have difficulty nurturing your own child. Your deepest oldest unremembered body memories would remind you that you are giving something which you needed and didn't get. You need to grieve not getting the mothering you needed and find some sort of "revenge" in giving it to your own child. You don't want this to be passed on to another generation. Go into another room, turn up the stereo and cry as much as you can, as often as needed, until you are emptied out of loss. Then come back and behold the miracle. The greatest joy I ever had was in seeing the insight and delight of my child when I engaged him, after I cried away may own pain.

Cam I operate machinery on my medication?

Well, this is a good argument for natural healing and a bad argument for pharmaceuticals. Maybe you can draw up a document taking responsibility for your safety as a forklift driver. READ MORE
Well, this is a good argument for natural healing and a bad argument for pharmaceuticals. Maybe you can draw up a document taking responsibility for your safety as a forklift driver. I think you have to get off the medication, though. The body is designed to do natural healing, but the pharmaceutical industry is making a killing selling medications that numb out our feelings. Our feelings are there to help us heal. We have to work with them with bravery and courage. We need to go into our feelings and let them have their way with us: feel, cry, feel, cry, recall, rage, recall and cry, until we finish processing what is stuck that never got out. Now, if you have anxiety and depression all your life or as an underlying threat when things go wrong, it's probably because the first years of your life you were insecurely attached. If so, you need to get in touch with the feelings you had as an infant. I know that's a tall order, but you can allow yourself to acknowledge that you were a tiny baby and got left for a reason you couldn't yet understand (like Mommy has to earn a living). You have to sort of reason with yourself and let yourself know that those dark and anxious feelings are those of a little child, who believed he was worthless, because he was always being left. You can now correct that misinformation. You now know that Mommy going to work did not mean you were worthless to her and easy to leave. But, for argument's sake, let's say Mom was a worthless mom, it is still no reflection on you. Let's say you have a wife who leaves. It triggers the ancient feelings. You can grieve and then figure out how to choose better or do better next time. Let every failure be an opportunity to grow and learn. The way up is adapting. I doubt this pep-talk will work, because it's an attempt to represent a year's worth of therapy. But, that's the skeleton of the theory: You reprogram that baby within. Good luck.

What happens to your body during a panic attack?

OK, so first we have to establish that you have been a victim of trauma. Second, when you were a victim of trauma, you did not complete the healthy healing process of experiencing READ MORE
OK, so first we have to establish that you have been a victim of trauma. Second, when you were a victim of trauma, you did not complete the healthy healing process of experiencing your feelings fully. You didn't acknowledge the end to the event that frightened you so badly. Thus, when humans store unprocessed trauma, such that we also expect more, we will be reminded that we didn't finish.
So, those of us who get reminded by panic attacks are reminded in situations we call "triggers". That is, you have a trigger that somehow is reminiscent of what happened just before or during or just after your injury, most likely, just before. So, if I were in your situation, I'd keep a pillow in my car or in a briefcase, and when I have my next panic attack, I'd go out to my car or into a private space and scream bloody murder fear screams into my pillow. I'd cry. I'd shake. I'd sit there and allow myself to feel every feeling and hear every thought. After exhaustion, I'd think about why this event won't happen again and how it's over. I'd feel the relief. I would reassure myself that I am truly safe now. Even fear doesn't hurt me. There is nothing to be afraid of now. I will not fear fear anymore. I will face fear and process what my body wants me to process, so I can be clear, current and forward thinking.
To answer your question, now, regarding what happens to your body, it saves the fear-alarm experience, putting itself on "hold", to be continued later. Perhaps you were rescued, and you jumped from alarm to gratitude. Whatever happened, your body is on standby.
Many physicians prescribe pills, because they, too, believe that we shouldn't have to feel fear or anxiety. They almost act as if there isn't a cause underlying the feeling. Instead the focus is on a belief that we shouldn't have to suffer these negative emotions.
When we are traumatized, the amygdala records and saves the trauma, so we can remain on alert, if need be. Remember, our bodies were designed over time by evolution, where threats to survival sometimes lasted and we shouldn't drop our guard.
Even when we don't specifically remember the threat, the amygdala does. The amygdala never forgets. However, the amygdala can let go of a fully processed experience. It is just that if we have put our process on hold (with medication, denial or stoicism), and the amygdala will keep our feelings at the ready for us, on a hyper-vigilant standby, alert mode. So, when we are triggered, the rest of the body goes into that alarmed state of fight or flight, as if we could die. Not only do we have the chemical release of the amygdala, but we have adrenaline and cortisol coursing though our body, because he brain believes we are revisiting our life-threatening experience again, and we have to save ourselves. It's up to you to finish the process and reassure yourself that it's over.

Are my symptoms related to divorce stress?

Life can be hard. It can be joyful. How hard it is depends upon how brave we are. If we take care of the hard things, we recover. If we avoid feeling the feelings, crying and grieving READ MORE
Life can be hard. It can be joyful. How hard it is depends upon how brave we are. If we take care of the hard things, we recover. If we avoid feeling the feelings, crying and grieving and self-reflecting on our part, we will be deviled for our incompleteness. I am concerned you will become a drug addict and your inadvertent dealer will be your doctor. If you were my patient, I would want to see why your constitution fears feelings. I would guess that you learned to fear fear as a child. What happened then? When you were an infant, did your mother leave you every day to go to work? Do you have abandonment issues from way back? Or, rejection issues that you never processed. Do you have behaviors that cause you to choose relationships due to flattery, not character. Do you do things in a relationship to push people away. If you face your feelings and the lessons within, you should be able to gradually withdraw. The thing is, you are becoming addicted, and withdrawal will bring up exaggerated versions of those old feelings. Now you really have to be brave. Good luck. There's a pot of gold around the corner (if I can mix a metaphor). .

What is the main treatment goal of humanistic therapy?

The question is better asked, "What are the treatment methods of Humanistic Therapy?" That's because you bring the goals, we bring the techniques. I'm not very sure what is said READ MORE
The question is better asked, "What are the treatment methods of Humanistic Therapy?" That's because you bring the goals, we bring the techniques. I'm not very sure what is said to be the treatment goals of humanistic therapy, but I recall they are pretty much about being empathetic and modeling how kindness begets kindness. It's not my orientation, so I'm not qualified to answer.

Does counseling work for anxiety?

Therapy helps with anxiety, but it also depends upon the type of therapy. If you want to get to the bottom of it, first consider whether you developed separation anxiety early READ MORE
Therapy helps with anxiety, but it also depends upon the type of therapy. If you want to get to the bottom of it, first consider whether you developed separation anxiety early in life. That is, did you have to attend daycare before the age of three or did your parent(s) have to leave you with someone else for awhile. That would be the foundation of your anxiety, and you need to get clear in therapy that that threat no longer exists, but that you are sensitive to rejection by others. If there was no such event in your early childhood, then your anxiety may stem from stress of high expectations and insufficient help as a young child. Figure out what happened to set the stage. Then, and only then, allow a therapist to get you to "think differently". I believe you need to understand the issue before you "think differently", or you will revert to old thought habits. Yes, if you have a competent therapist, you can get treatment for anxiety, especially since medication is not the long-term answer.

What is the difference between a therapist and psychologist?

I am a psychologist and a marriage and family therapist. I often call myself a therapist and represent that I do therapy. Therapist is a generic term that covers a few licensed READ MORE
I am a psychologist and a marriage and family therapist. I often call myself a therapist and represent that I do therapy. Therapist is a generic term that covers a few licensed practitioners. Psychologist is a specific term. Psychiatrists are MDs that prescribe medication with less education in environmental causes of behavior than in medicine. Psychologists have the longest education, but they are often stuck in between genetic theory and behavioral theory, with some psychologists obtaining a credential in prescribing medication. However, psychologists probably have the most regarded education amongst therapists. They usually charge more, too. They are titled with doctor (Dr.). Social workers can make good therapists with a masters degree, especially for families in trouble. My personal favorite is a marriage and family therapist (MFT), because they/we have the most education in the impact of environment, especially family systems. MFTs understand best the transfer of behaviors from generation to generation, and the importance of addressing family systems. I also advocate the longterm harm of repressing the expression of thoughts, feelings and memories (witnessing) in a family, as well as another family practice of blaming versus self-reflection. The biggest mistake families make, with the most long-term harm, is contracting out their babies and toddlers for others to raise infants and small children. In my opinion, worse than abuse is failed attachments, repression and blaming practices. That's mostly the insight from family therapy. Of course, abuse is harmful, but requiring the child to keep it a secret or not complain magnifies the injury and creates scapegoating behavior. By the way, an MFT or some psychologists might consider depression and anxiety the result of a weak attachment, and anxiety the result of premature attachment breaks from a good attachment. There may be overlap. A psychiatrist and some psychologists might think depression is inborn and recommend medication.

What are psychodynamic techniques?

There are more than 100 psychodynamic techniques these days. Everyone seems to invent another. There are also "evidence based" practices which are based on little pin-pointed READ MORE
There are more than 100 psychodynamic techniques these days. Everyone seems to invent another. There are also "evidence based" practices which are based on little pin-pointed studies. There are no studies to date on an overview. I have written one, but no scientist wants to take on an overview. It's too big to measure. However, my overview utilizes the best research available. That's my prelude.
The primary techniques stem from the primary theories. I break the theories down to two causes. Some would say nature versus nurture, but I'd say pro-parent versus pro-child. In other words, some ignore childhood causes and some depend on understanding them. Mostly, today, there is an emphasis on inborn causes that ignore childhood experiences: behavioral modification, pharmaceuticals, positive thinking approaches; problem-solving; cognitive therapies, frontal lobotomies, shock therapy, Late-Freud analysis, etc.
Pro-child techniques include parenting education and prevention, Early Freud analysis, trauma recovery techniques (EMDR, somatic processing, rage reduction, empty chair conversations with the parent or offender), relationship skills training, etc.

Can anxiety cause physical pain symptoms?

Yes, anxiety can cause pain, such as stomach aches, headaches, body aches (from tensing muscles), and even heart palpitations. However, before assuming this is from anxiety, I READ MORE
Yes, anxiety can cause pain, such as stomach aches, headaches, body aches (from tensing muscles), and even heart palpitations. However, before assuming this is from anxiety, I would get a physical.

Dr. Faye

Breakup during covid-19?

I'd say he blew it. I'd ask him to leave. There are residences that offer beds for $500 a month. You can't be his only resource. This is a natural consequence. His idea of friendship READ MORE
I'd say he blew it. I'd ask him to leave. There are residences that offer beds for $500 a month. You can't be his only resource. This is a natural consequence. His idea of friendship give him no consequence, and you have the whole consequence for his behavior. If you feel real bad, buy him a tent.

How long does it take for cognitive behavioral therapy to work?

CBT is a new solution for insurance companies to cut their expenses. CBT does not heal. It changes behavior, but it doesn't heal. If you were put in daycare before the age of three, READ MORE
CBT is a new solution for insurance companies to cut their expenses. CBT does not heal. It changes behavior, but it doesn't heal. If you were put in daycare before the age of three, you would have separation anxiety, now called anxiety as an adult. Thus, you have unprocessed fears of abandonment. Figure out what unprocessed fear resides within. You might have to meditate on the way you feel in order to get clear. When you finally get clear, see if you can scream the fear out of your body (into a pillow) or cry it out. Anxiety is a very old unprocessed emotion. Then, check to see what is causing you anxiety now. Does it make things better or worse. If you live in fear over things that most people would just handle, then you might have to find the courage to live the life you want to live and do what you must and then reap.